I'm prettier than you are.
Thursday, 11 July 2002
What Kind of Man Are You?

No, this isn't one of those ridiculous quizzes that seem to be all the rage, and which litter oh too many people's "blogs". I'm not going to ask you to answer a handful of questions to determine "Which Ice Cream Flavor Are You?" or "Which Office Supply Are You?" or "Which Serial Murderer Are You?" No. There will be none of that.

What there will be, however, is YOU telling ME what kind of man you are. (And please, ladies/broads/chicks/dames, I don't want to hear you complain, "But I'm not a MAN! I'm a WOMAN!") Are you a leg man? An ass man? A breast man? I want to know what you check out first when you are confronted with a woman on the street.

And just so I don't have to hear any complaints, such as "I don't appreciate your objectifying women. There's more to a person than what she looks like!" I'm going to extend this question to include men as well. Yes, that's right. I'm objectifying men too. It's only fair. I don't want to exclude anyone.

I know that a lot of you will want to say "the face". And that's fine. Tell me that, and then tell me what the next "part" is. But do not under any circumstance tell me that you don't look. Don't say, "The brain is the most important part of any person, whether man or woman!" (For the "record", I really believe it is. But let's just suspend that reality here.)

We all check each other out. Men. Women. The occasional really hot nine-year-old. We all look. (And any guy who says, "I don't look at other guys" or "No, I don't notice if another guy is good-looking" is about as full of shit as people who say they never watch TV except for PBS and the Discovery Channel.) We all have a part of the body that we enjoy. Mine, hands down, are the legs. Men's and women's.

If you choose to respond to this question, be brave and answer with regard to both sexes. Because I have a little secret for you, boys (and yes, I'm addressing the guys here because most women don't have a problem admitting that they check out the chicks): Just because you look at people of the same sex, it doesn't mean you're a "fuckin' homo". (And by the way, if you really think it does, we would never get along in real life.)

So ... get to steppin'. Have fun.

(Oh, and P.S. If I were an office supply, I'd be a three-hole punch. And no, I don't mean anything sexual by that. Swine.)

fresh-baked at 11:40 AM
Comments

Eyes. Hair. Ass. Arms. Hands.

And... I only watch PBS and Discovery. Except for a yet undefined weakness for Dawson's Creek and ER. Really. Honestly. Oh wait.. Six Feet Under...

Offered by: LA on July 12, 2002 3:26 PM

was a=were a. Ugh. Bad day at the office on my end.

Offered by: Scott on July 11, 2002 6:43 PM

Women: I'm a leg man, and the natural extension thereof: the ass.

After that, it's faces that win me over; it's not one special thing, but I might have to say the mouth. I don't like a woman who has no lips, but I also despise the Angelina Jolie look. Collagen injections was a nightmare given form.

One female celebrity who defines what I like would be Jessica Alba, late of Dark Angel. She is beautiful, with a nice figure and a great face.

I'm with Kim about Kevin Smith/Ares; he was one fine looking man. Bowie's another looker.

Oh, and the guy who plays Ian on Witchblade. It's not one particular thing.

Offered by: Scott on July 11, 2002 6:42 PM

Eyes. Men and women alike. Eyes.

Then there is the way a person carries oneself. Size, hue of skin, etc are all unimportant if the people can carry themselves with total confidence and sureness. I like a person of PURPOSE. (Go look on my weblog for my bit on men.....and no, I don't have the link handy....Blogger isn't cooperating.)

With men, arms. I like arms that appear reassuring. Nothing wrong with wanting a nice set of arms to hold one at the end of a long day.

Women, natural breasts. Don't EVER make me look at a woman who has fakes that look as though a doctor shoved the bottom of 2 liter bottles in there. YUCK! Not attractive!

I had more but I am now tired.

Offered by: The Eyes Have It on July 11, 2002 5:42 PM

First off, eyes. Not that I'm attracted to eyes. I don't think it even counts as 'checking them out'. I just make eye contact with everybody I pass by habit.

With women: breasts. I don't care whether they're big or small, perky or droopy, I just love boobs. Even though I am always listening to what she says, I can't help but take in an eyeful of those breastesses. Call me disrespectful if you want, but I can't help it.

With men: de ass. If I were a girl I'd want to slap the ass, if I were gay I'd want to ride the ass, and if I were a dog I'd want to bite the ass. I am always checking out men's asses - if he can't take care of his ass, how is he going to take care of hers?

Offered by: Citizen Keen on July 11, 2002 4:48 PM

1. Mouth (its posture and the lips, of course) If I can sneak a peak at the tongue, so much the better.
2. Ass (from a distance)
3. Hands (up close)

Offered by: Desert Mermaid on July 11, 2002 4:44 PM

Jenn: Ahhh yes. I remember fondly our days on the Penn campus!

Offered by: Jodi on July 11, 2002 4:42 PM

I am an "ass" woman, overall. The face is obvious, for both sexes, so I'm talking about what I notice after that. Women have much more varied (therefore, read interesting)lower bodies, I think, so though I'm straight, my interests are modeled after them. I love legs, but men don't generally have much going on there compared with women(though, for the record,my boyfriend has great legs), so I look at the legs of women much more quickly than those of men.

Offered by: Jenn on July 11, 2002 4:32 PM

Girls: As with Aaron and Jodi, I love glasses, so I s'pose that means I look at a girl's eyes first...and then I'd have to say legs.

Guys: I also dig glasses on guys. A guy with short hair and glasses and a slight amount of stubble make a handsome dude, in my opinion.

Offered by: Bonko on July 11, 2002 4:31 PM

Jodi:

You know I started wearing glasses since you saw me last. Alas, I’ve also started shaving my forearms.

Personally, I think myopia is sexier than presbyopia…but you’ll probably just think I’m being ageist.

Offered by: skip on July 11, 2002 4:26 PM

i am a leg woman. give me a guy with nicely defined calves and i am putty in his hands. that's why i love male tennis players. i'm also a 30 year-old pervert who checks out 16 year-old skater boys legs. especially if they have tats on their calves.

with women, i am a face gal. i can overlook a lot of flaws for a nice-looking face. my lesbian fantasy women are totally slutty looking though. i have a major crush on jenna jameson and she's as big a slut as can be. i wonder what that says about me?

Offered by: laura on July 11, 2002 3:50 PM

On men, hands and chest/shoulders first. I love to look at big, hunky men like Kevin Smith. (No, not Kevin Smith of Clerks fame. And this photo doesn't do him justice. You have to see him in the black leather Ares costume. Oh, yum.)

On women, I actually just like to look at women. (Maybe you're right and I am a lesbian, Tess!) We have such nice curves and we're so pretty to look at. No wonder men like us so much.

Offered by: Kim on July 11, 2002 2:57 PM

On women: mouth, eyes, hair, breasts, ass, legs. Roughly in that order. Oh, and after that their walk, the way a woman carries herself. My favorites are the the baby dykes: all cropped hair, muscle, piercings, and a swagger. Yum.

On men: Honestly? Hair and then their face. If they have good hair, good teeth and their eyes don't give them away to be a serial killer (thank you, Tess), I'm more inclined to look favorably upon the rest of them. But the hair and teeth thing is a deal-breaker.

Offered by: Eyre ni Rhuth on July 11, 2002 2:29 PM

Aaron - I definitely agree. If someone has said to himself, "Yes, in twenty years I will want a giant color portait of a naked bloody demon covering my entire arm", I'm going to take a stab in the dark and assume that he has poor decision-making skills. Same goes for tattoos of Elmo or quotes from Scarface.

Offered by: Jess on July 11, 2002 1:51 PM

I like in women what I like in poultry: good legs and breasts. Belly button piercings are always a plus too. And if I were a superhero, blondes would be my kryptonite, straight up.

Offered by: Dan the Goose on July 11, 2002 1:48 PM

Breasts (both women and men)
Lips (women only)
The irony here is that even though the first thing i look at in a woman is her breasts, I always seem to fall (emotionally) for the ones with little tits. I do check out big tittied men at times too, but thats to laugh my ass off...

Offered by: BooBoo on July 11, 2002 1:34 PM

Regarding Tattoos: (this applies to guys and girls) If you have a prominent one, you may as well actually be Herve Villichez, as far as I'm concerned. Next to improper grammar or a bad dialect (read: Boston) this is one of the top ways of saying to me "Warning: I am probably an idiot."

Now, don't get all insulted just yet. I've known enough people to know that I am certainly not always correct about this. I've known a select few very intelligent people with prominent tattoos, and even fewer who make frequent use of grammar that makes me physically recoil, but I know that they do exist. They're just a bit on the rare side.

Offered by: aaron on July 11, 2002 1:32 PM

Honestly, I've been sitting here thinking about this for 5 straight (ha ha) minutes and I can't say that I look at specifically "physical" qualities in either one. Not in the usual sense, anyway.

If pinned down, though, in both sexes, I look at eyes first - they tell me everything I need to know. I look at serial killer Ted Bundy, who was quite handsome, but to look at his eyes you just KNOW he's a loon. I think, "How could any woman involved with him not see that?" Eyes truly are the windows to the soul.

But truthfully, I look more at the total person. I love women that exude compassion without being namby-pamby. I love outgoing, confident, compassionate and intelligent women that appear down to earth, open, and funny with just a hint of vulnerability (or shyness) underneath the confidence. :) (My god... I just realized I'm attracted to... myself...)

In men, I look for a strength that's natural, not a macho "strong" guy act that says he's anything but; it's a strength that means he could pick up an injured bird off the sidewalk and nurse it back to health without thinking he's gay. I love men that appear confident, that don't stand with their hands in their pockets or fold their hands over their crotch when they're posing for a picture; I like men that smile easily, dress nicely without being "foo foo" and I'm a sucker for dark skin, black hair and blue eyes. It's the Elvis lover in me... ;)

I'm truly the most "nonsexual" people watcher there ever was. I get most turned on by the way people carry themselves, their personalities and their intelligence.

Offered by: Tess on July 11, 2002 1:10 PM

I'm a sucker for a nice back. Especially if he's wearing one of those wife-beaters, preferably a ratty old one with coffee stains on it. (Sometimes I'm so classy I can't stand myself.)

I think I'd say the same for women too, unless they're trying to show it off with some kind of hideous cutesy tattoo. I met a girl once who had a tattoo on her shoulder of a bunch of random lines. They looked like pigeon tracks. I asked her what it was, and she said, "It was supposed to be a tiger, but I passed out." Total waste of a perfect back.

Offered by: Jess on July 11, 2002 1:07 PM

Girls and guys; I notice the nose and divot first, generally if the nose and divot are perfectly upturned with the right amount of "je'ne sais quoi" to be deemed "perfect" in our appearance driven society, then I find that person rather plain. I like noticable noses and divots; Off-center, larger, asymmetric, scarred slightly, whatever. To me, perfect people can ride on their good looks in life, but lack anything of substance to back it up. The people with distinguishing facial features, especially hard to hide ones, have had to compensate for their lack of "perfection" by aquiring real emotions and personalities. Unusually featured people also tend to be the most empathetic and compassionate.

After that, for girls I like breasts, especially when they're natural or, at the very least, well implanted; If you're on your back and your breasts don't move at all or the skin pulls at the implant showing right where it's at, then it's time to say good bye, not good night.

For guys, it's the teeth. I dislike guys with overlapping shards of bone that pass for teeth.

Offered by: Thomas on July 11, 2002 12:48 PM

I'm a nose man! From your picture on your home page I see you don't have one? I love your writing, but without a nose ...

Offered by: DataCloud on July 11, 2002 12:42 PM

Zuly: Are you trying to say you'd bite those asses? Hmm.

Aaron: Glasses do it for me too. Always have. And, on guys only, furry (but not too) forearms, exposed when shirtsleeves are rolled up (but not past the elbow).

Offered by: Jodi on July 11, 2002 12:39 PM

This is a toughie. I personally feel that the most important characteristic in a woman is opposable thumbs. That, and the ability to walk upright. So I guess you could say "hands" and "posture."

For guys (who rarely possess either of the above) I notice the pitch level of their grunts first. A good, resonant voice is important to me.

Seriously though...I am immediately drawn to girls with glasses. I absolutely LOVE glasses. I don't know why, but I do. Beyond that, I'm not picky. I notice whatever the woman is trying hardest to accentuate. (Don't think we don't notice when you're trying, either.)

As far as guys go, I think the guys I find the most attractive (in a "I wouldn't want him talking to my girlfriend" sort of way.) are the ones with the nicest hair, and who have some semblance of intelligence about them.

Offered by: aaron on July 11, 2002 12:36 PM

I'll bite.

1. Eyes.
2. Ass.

And of course both men and women.

Offered by: Zuly on July 11, 2002 12:30 PM